We asked all our interviewees who did not have premarital coitus what factors restrained them, and we asked those with premarital coitus what prevented them from having more. Some of the restraints derive from religious morality, some from secular morality (public opinion), and others from concern over possible physical sequelae (pregnancy, venereal disease). These are all restraints of choice, so to speak; the person makes the decision to have or not have coitus. Sometimes no decision is involved—it is simply lack of opportunity that determines that coitus will not occur. Lastly, the absence or reduction of coitus may be due to lack of motivation caused by satiation, homosexuality, or by some abnormality or pathology of neurophysiology.
Since almost every man with reasonable memory and prudence can recall being influenced to some degree by all the restraints mentioned above, we have chosen in the following discussion to confine our attention to the instances where a given restraint was reported as being a powerful factor in preventing coitus.
First is moral restraint, which correlates highly with religious devoutness, a deterrent based on the concept of premarital coitus as sinful. Some individuals stated this explicitly; others rationalized or were ambiguous: “Oh, there is nothing wrong about it, but we just thought we would wait until we were married,” or “I have no religious or moral objections; I just don’t think it’s the thing to do.” Such moral restraint was a strong deterrent to no more than 36 per cent of any group. The incest offenders vs. adults had the most individuals who reported strong moral scruples, followed by die control group, the heterosexual offenders vs. children, and the homosexual offenders. Those least influenced include the heterosexual aggressors vs. minors and adults (4 and 12 per cent), the heterosexual offenders vs. adults, and the prison group—the groups whom we have seen had the largest numbers of their members beginning coitus in their early and middle teens. The coital morality of the homosexual offenders in their premarital lives is an interesting phenomenon: in part it is a cause of their homosexuality and in part it is a result of their homosexuality.
Second is lack of opportunity. This category is complicated by the fact that many who gave it as a reason were, in actuality, rationalizing. Very few males have lacked the opportunity to have premarital coitus —willing females or prostitutes exist in or near virtually every community. When an individual reports he did not have premarital coitus because of lack of opportunity, he is usually in essence saying that moral or aesthetic considerations prevented him from accepting the opportunities that existed. If he says that he did not have more coitus because of lack of opportunity, his report is more in keeping with reality. Limitations imposed by time, money, and female availability do obviously exist and constitute the most common deterrent in all groups save the homosexual offenders. Between one third and four fifths of the members of the comparative groups reported lack of opportunity as a major factor in their premarital sexual activity. The aggressors, despite their relatively adequate incidence and frequency figures, found lack of opportunity a more important factor than did others. A sense of being deprived of opportunity or even cheated of what they construed as rightful opportunities may have contributed to the aggressive nature of their offenses.
Third is lack of interest. Unfortunately this category is also spoiled to some degree by the fact that lack of interest can be the product either of a general disinterest in females or of temporary satiation. Thus a male with a low sex drive or with strong homosexual orientation will report lack of interest in having more coitus because he was already having all he wanted. Consequently, about all that can be salvaged from this category is the not unexpected finding that the three homosexual-offender groups had the largest proportions (49 to 77 per cent in order of the strength of their homosexual orientation) of individuals who found lack of interest a major reason for abstention from coitus. Next in the rank-order come some “sated groups”—the offenders vs. minors and adults and the prison groups—all notable for high frequencies of premarital coitus, and with 43 vs. 48 per cent reporting lack of interest in having more. The equivalent figure for the control group is 26 per cent.
Fourth is fear of pregnancy. This was a strong deterrent for from 7 to 21 per cent of the individuals comprising the various groups. A rank-order reveals little except that the heterosexual aggressors were indifferent to this possible misfortune. The control group ranks third.
Fifth is fear of venereal disease, an apprehension that strongly afflicted from 4 to 22 per cent of the persons of the various groups. The control-group individuals and the peepers (22—20 per cent) were influenced most, the heterosexual aggressors least. This is the reverse of the actual incidence of venereal disease where one finds aggressors heading the rank-orders for syphilis and gonorrhea and the control group having very few infected men. The morality-through-fear method, so frequent in books and lectures aimed at young males, does not appear to be particularly effective. One might say that it stops few but worries more. A considerable number of males were quite blas? about the possibility of contracting venereal disease, looking upon it as a man in a factory would look upon the possibility of an industrial accident, an unavoidable occupational hazard. Others felt that they could adequately detect the presence or absence of disease in a potential partner.
Such layman’s diagnosis ranged from superficial visual impression (“she looked like a nice clean girl”) to more elaborate folkloristic techniques (“you put some lemon juice in and if it hurts her, she’s got the clap”). Still others felt that postcoital measures such as urinating, washing the penis, or using a prepared prophylactic was safeguard enough, and hence were not particularly worried about venereal infection. The reader should recall that most of the premarital life spans under discussion here are of the preantibiotic era. A relaxed attitude toward venereal disease cannot be attributed wholly to “miracle drugs.”
Sixth is fear of adverse opinion by other persons who might learn of the sexual activity. Those who were most prone to abstain from premarital coitus for moral reasons were also those who most feared public opinion: the incest offenders vs. adults, the heterosexual offenders vs. children, and the homosexual offenders vs. children and minors. The incest offenders vs. adults were the most apprehensive; nearly one quarter reported that fear of public opinion had been a major restraint. Once more, the heterosexual aggressors expressed the least fear: two of the three aggressor groups occupy the last two positions in the rank-order (0—4 per cent).
This fear of public opinion was not a fear of legal involvement or of retaliation by the outraged parents of the girl—it was a fear of losing social status and respect; the individual would never think of confessing his virginity to his peers and thereby losing status with them, yet simultaneously he abstained from coitus lest “people find out.” Evidently the desideratum is to be regarded as a Casanova by one’s male friends and as a paragon of virtue by one’s neighbors and relatives. It is interesting that the men who even mentioned concern over the legal sanctions against premarital coitus may be counted on die fingers of both hands. Statutes against fornication seem useless as deterrents.
Lastly, the desire to marry a virgin sometimes prevents a male from having coitus with a female he expects to marry. This particular restraint often represents the old dichotomy of “good girls” (the kind one marries) and “bad girls” (the kind with whom one has coitus), and is seen among males who have premarital coitus, but not with their fianc?es. In other cases this reason for abstention is simply another guise of moral objection to any premarital coitus. It is seen most clearly among males who say they would not have coitus with a girl unless they liked her enough to marry her, and once a girl fulfills this requisite she becomes a potential wife and the male then “thinks too much of her” to have coitus with her. As one might anticipate, the incest offenders vs. adults and the control-group individuals, who rank first and second in moral restraint, have the largest proportion of persons (29 and 24 per cent) reporting that desire for a virgin wife deterred them from premarital coitus with prospective marital partners. However, the rank-order of desire to marry a virgin and the rank-order of moral restraint are by no means identical—for example, the heterosexual offenders vs. adults rank low in the latter, but high in the former. Such discrepancy is possible because the moral restraint category applies to all premarital coitus (and is a single standard binding upon both sexes) whereas the other applies only to coitus with an intended spouse, and is not incompatible with the double standard of sexual morality.
In the final analysis the chief restraint upon the incidence of premarital coitus is a moral one and closely associated with religious devoutness, while the chief restraint on frequency of coitus is probably opportunity. Lack of interest is a factor of consequence only among the homosexual offenders and among a few sated groups with high coital frequencies. Thus we see that moral considerations inhibited the premarital coital activity of our more religiously devout groups such as the incest offenders vs. adults (44 per cent devout) and the control group (28 per cent devout), but played a lesser role among the less devout groups such as the heterosexual aggressors (4 to 15 per cent devout). The aggressors also display a relative disregard for possible sequelae involving pregnancy, disease, and adverse social reaction. Aside from religious morality, the rather marked concern of the control group about possible social and physical sequelae suggests prudence, foresight, and a sense of social responsibility—all attributes that tend to keep their possessors out of prison.
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